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| My best friend since kindergarten has had a dog her whole life. She's a golden retriever named "Molly". The thing is, she's 15 and starting to pee in the house, fall down, etc. I know those aren't good signs. The other day my friend said to me, "I don't want to take Molly to the vet because I'm scared they're going to put her down." I know that she knows that might be coming soon...And her parents told her their not getting another dog... First of all, what do I say when she says things like that? And second of all, after Molly...passes on...what should I say to comfort her? Sorry, it's just I've never had a bff's dog pass away.Thanks!
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[quote]doglover7 (1/1/2009)
My best friend since kindergarten has had a dog her whole life. She's a golden retriever named "Molly". The thing is, she's 15 and starting to pee in the house, fall down, etc. I know those aren't good signs. The other day my friend said to me, "I don't want to take Molly to the vet because I'm scared they're going to put her down." I know that she knows that might be coming soon...
First of all, what do I say when she says things like that? And second of all, after Molly...passes on...what should I say to comfort her? Thanks![/quote]
I think the best thing to do is just tell her its going to be okay, and let her know that its for the better. Would she rather be selfish and let the dog stay and suffer, or let the dog lay there in pain just waiting to dye? I know we all hate to do that to our loved ones but there is a point in our life whenever we have to let go and do whats best for the dog not ourselves.
Whenever this dog passes on, just hug her and tell her its going to be okay. Her dog is in a better place then suffering and that you are sure Molly is an angel looking out for her now. Its going to be harder for her before it gets better, hiding from the truth and facts only makes the pain worse. She has to face it and live with the pain before it can heal. A suggestion would be for her to go and get a new dog, a different breed. This helps a lot of people get their mind off of the pet they just lost. If she refuses to that then spend time with her and you make sure to get it off of her mind. Go shopping with her, watch movies and stuff.
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If the dog is in pain and just miserable, I would let my friend know, that she is not doing her dog a favor by letting live like that.
If she loves her dog,she has to do what is best for the dog, not her.
Our Dogs are not spoiled,we're just well trained 
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Okay, thank you! 
- The only boy in my life is my dog. ♥
Oliver...a cairn terrier / shih tzu cross
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your welcome.
I know that is a painful decision, but this is a time , where she needs to put the dog first.
Our Dogs are not spoiled,we're just well trained
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Nicely put dogsrme. She has to do whats best for the dog and not be selfish and keep her dog to herself. comferting her is good too. I like to put situtation as what if it were on my foot? How would I want someone to treat me? Say to me? that helps me know what to say to someone. Like right now, my friend and I were on the phone and shes like...my Uncle died and she was crying, I asked myself what would I want someone to say to me? and then told her what I'd want someone to say to me if that happened to me
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| I had to put my dog of 16 years. It hurts and every one morns in different ways Here are some things for your friend also needs to consider before the trip to the vet. To stay in the room with "Molly" To take "Molly" home with her after or to have her cremated. I personally did not go into the room with her. I said my goodbyes. I did not want to see her not breathing. I also had my dog cremated. My friends bought a beautiful Willow Tree memory box in which her ashes are now. I have them on the fireplace at the our cabin. A place she loved to be. Someday we might move and sell both houses...I will be able to take her with. Your friend sounds young so this might be an option she will want to consider. I had friends help me...just be there and help her through it. Hope this helps... Tabitha 12/30/1992 to 11/20/2008 
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| I don't know if you remember me posting this but I do. Anyways...Molly passed away last week. She was 16 and 4 months old. Which is amazing for a golden retriever. My friend was okay, I think we knew this was coming. I just want to say that "I love you Molly!" and the good thing is, I did get to say goodbye. The last time I was at her house, I knew her life was coming to an end, so I said. "Goodbye Molly, I love you". Which is always a good thing to remember. 
- The only boy in my life is my dog. ♥
Oliver...a cairn terrier / shih tzu cross
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sorry to hear about Molly.
 
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| I know of an awesome keepsake that might help her cherish the memory of her dog when the time comes. Go to . Several cool things that might help you "say" the right thing.
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