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RE: I don't know what to do

staffordmom — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 18:19:19 GMT

It wasn't your fault. I know your pain and the grieving is normal. It will ease with time although you'll always miss her. And when the time is right, get a new dog. It will help tremendously ( I know).

staffordmom

RE: I don't know what to do

LilReeses — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 09:24:42 GMT

my baby Reeses passed as well.he snapped his neck.i deffinatly feel for you.it will be okay soon.i still think about him.but it's deffinatly noit as hard as it used to be.it'll be okay.

RE: I don't know what to do

Macy Pimm — Fri, 30 May 2008 10:43:06 GMT

I feel so sorry for you! I lost my Westie, Mac, on November 11, 2006 because he had to be put down because he bit my brother. Of course, you will never forget your dog and will probably never stop grieving over your beloved pet, but the pain will ease over time. I suggest you make a scrapbook of your pet. It's also nice to have good dog loving friends who are sympathetic and will listen as you painfully tell them (again and again) how sad you are. Since the pain is still fresh in your heart it will be very hard. When Mac died I could barely eat, sleep, or do anything because I was so sad, so I got a new Westie, Macy. She helped me forget about my sad feelings and think about her (but I still thought about Mac all the time). You are in my prayers, and just remember that God is watching over you.

RE: I don't know what to do

The Whiner's Friend — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 17:38:16 GMT

[quote]Turbo K9 (9/4/2007)

Guys... you do realize the original poster hasn't logged on in over a year?

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I didn't read this till after I posted! oops

RE: I don't know what to do

The Whiner's Friend — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 17:35:28 GMT

Your loss really touches me. I've never had this happen to me; once, but I was too young too understand what had happened. Just a tip; it's alright to cry, its alright to talk about your dog. It will make you sad, but for my friends, talking made them feel better. I'm not sure about you, though.

RE: I don't know what to do

PawzNclawz — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 12:09:48 GMT

OMG THATS SO SADDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
im sorry to hear about panda and, i got to let u guys no.... i just cryed

RE: I don't know what to do

boxerpupsplyr — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 15:20:48 GMT

I LOST MY LAB AFTER 12YRS, I HAVE A BOXER TO, AND SHE IS SO HEART BROKEN AND SHE DOSENT UNDERSTAND THTA HE IS NOT HERE. SHE LOOKS FOR HIM AND IT JUST BREAKS MY HEART TO SEE HER LIKE THIS. I JUST CANT STOP CRYING AND MISSING HIM . WE WENT EVER WERE TOGETHER. IT WOULD BE NICE TO TALK WITH SOMEONE THAT KNOWS HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO YOU. AND IT IS LIKE A BEST FRIEND YOU WILL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN, AND HE WONT BE THERE WHEN YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK AND LISTEN TO YOU THANK YOU FOR LISTENNING TO ME

RE: I don't know what to do

dobermom — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 17:13:09 GMT

[quote]Turbo K9 (9/4/2007)

Guys... you do realize the original poster hasn't logged on in over a year?

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egg in face with this one *gggg*

RE: I don't know what to do

Turbo K9 — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 06:54:04 GMT

Guys... you do realize the original poster hasn't logged on in over a year?

RE: I don't know what to do

Miss Melanie — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 17:10:28 GMT

I am so VERY sorry for your loss. Time will help you, as will doing things for others. Also sharing your feelings should help your heart lighten.

God bless,

Melanie

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Shasta — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 12:46:53 GMT

I know how you feel I lost my chihuahua Rusty in April he was hit by car not far from the house he was only 5 months old I was home a lone when it hapended and these people came they were looking fore a traile fore rent they stayed with me until my mom and sister came home and they buird him in the sideyarde. I hope you feel better about your lose.

RE: I don't know what to do

IlovmydogMax — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 07:46:10 GMT

I am sorry for your loss. i dont know what to say that hasnt been said. i just want you to know if panda bear had passed away at the vet you might have not been with him his last minutes of life and panda bear would have been stress and nervous. it was better you were with panda bear and i am sure panda bear would want it no other way.

i have had this happen to me with a guinea pig although she did not get hit by a car we were on our way to the vet and she passed in my hands but at least she was not stresed at the vet

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Jadesmom — Sun, 19 Aug 2007 23:09:18 GMT

I feel so bad for you.Condolence.It will take a long time to heal your heart but it will heal...I felt just as abd when my eng bully went in for ceasarian surg for her puppies and to find out all five came out dead ...we almost lost her too from the toxicity of the pups...

Im sorry to hear of your loss but you will heal...

RE: I don't know what to do

DualingDuo54 — Fri, 15 Dec 2006 08:56:37 GMT

I know what it is like to lose a friend, a companion, a piece of our heart! You have to remember that they know we love them, they know in their hearts. You just have to remember it, and keep it in mind.

RE: I don't know what to do

kandystar — Thu, 14 Dec 2006 21:30:45 GMT

unfortunately there is nothing you can do. you cannot go through life saying what ifs. it was NOT your fault or your friends, no matter what you may think. you loved her and she loved you and you gave her a great life and that is all that matters. you loved her unconditionally as she did you. cherish her memories and know that she knew you loved her(they always do). i would volunteer at a animal shelter and try to help those poor lost souls of their dogs. sometimes it helps with grief to stay busy and help someone(or something) else. i have lost cherished and beloved pets and it is never easy and no words will make you feel better. you can pm me anytime, i love to chat.

RE: I don't know what to do

laci04 — Thu, 14 Dec 2006 18:37:49 GMT

I know how you feel I was 13 and my mom said I could get a puppy as long as I took care of it. Well my step-sister who lives in GA her friend had min pin mix puppys so I got one I named him speckles he was the first little dog I ever had and one day I came home from school and he was really tired and couldn't walk we took him to the vet and they said he had parvo and they couldn't do anything for him and the best thing for us to do was put him to sleep so I took him home and decided to spend a little more time with him and to say good bye I had him lying on some blankets on the floor with me next to him and then he started moving his feet like he was trying to run and then he just stop breathing right in front off me... Its still hard to talk about it and its been 2 years but he was only 5mths old and he was soo cute and small and I loved him soo much...... I miss him soo much and from then on I told my mom I would never get another puppy only older dogs

It may be hard now and for some people It alawys will be hard to talk about but at least there not suffering anymore?????

RE: I don't know what to do

Kimmy — Fri, 03 Nov 2006 12:37:50 GMT

I can totally relate I lost my yellow lab my "baby" to being his by a car he was only one year old. I have a bag of all his stuff in my garage and whenever I miss him I go and open the bag and take a whif it always smells like him and makes me cry more but there is some thing that makes my heart stop hurting for just a little bit... It also helps to have a dog I've been lucky enough to always have another dog at home when i lost one but if you dont, look into adopting a dog beacuse altough you may feel you are replacing panda he knows that you are not! Ultimatly it is up to you what you are going to do but I know that it always has helped to have another furry friend to hug and cry on. Hope that helps a bit.

RE: I don't know what to do

Turbo K9 — Tue, 26 Sep 2006 18:52:03 GMT

Wow. So sorry for you. I have lost a couple dogs years ago, and know it hurts. Don't blame yourself for your dog being a dog. Dogs escape, and do things that we regret, but unless YOU lifted that zipper, it's not your fault? One thing that always helps me deal with it is that I work with dogs. Consider volunteering at a local shelter perhaps? At first, it may seem to make you hurt a little more with all the dogs around, but perhaps helping them will soften your feelings of guilt? Overall, anyway, you'll just have to get through all the grieving.

Whatever you do, don't get another dog until you are 100% ready! Getting one too early is like dating on the rebound You might wake up with something sleeping in your bed one morning and be absolutely horrified that you brought THAT home...

Hope that made you laugh You 'sound' like you could use it...

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leopardgurl_2004 — Sat, 16 Sep 2006 07:54:29 GMT

I am so sorry for your loss. I too had to have watched my Dalmation die. Her story is posted under the memorilal section under Remembering Lucy called "A Sparkling Crystal."

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huskies r perfect — Fri, 15 Sep 2006 20:24:39 GMT

I haven't lost a dog yet, (thankfully), but I lost my 5 month old kitten a few weeks ago. It's better to have a few pets, because when I got upset one time and started crying, I went out to Misty and she licked the tears away.

Just tonight I really wanted him, because I got mad and upset and I remembered when I used to get him and his sister (she disappeared a week before he was run over) and they would purr and play and I would hang out with them.

A new pet definitely won't replace Panda Bear, but it might ease the pain some.

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Angel8 — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 14:34:21 GMT

I know how u feel, but imagine the fact my dog died the week b4 christmas. I couldn't even enjoy any of the gifts that I got.

: (

I really know how u feel. My dog Tanner got ran over when I was at the bustop waiting for the school bus. I cried all day!

RE: I don't know what to do

sunka43 — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 18:59:45 GMT

I too have lost more than one beloved dog. As a trainer, I tell my clients that dogs are closet psychics, they can sense what you want them to do. But I believe this "sense" they have transcends all realms, wherever Panda is, Panda knows how you feel. I have spent much time in the quiet dark talking to those that are in Doggie Heaven, and they spend more time comforting me, telling me they're fine, no more illnesses (one had epilepsy and was happy to tell me that the seizures were gone forever) and that they were reunited with old friends they missed that had gone before them and were spending alot of time playing like they used to.

As the one above said, it could take weeks or months, but know the pain will fade and you can remember the good times without crying, maybe even you'll hear yourself laugh at something silly they did once. That is when our departed ones are closest to us and happiest watching over us, when they can look down and see us remembering the joy we shared together and remembering the laughter instead of the tears. Sunka43

RE: I don't know what to do

mzk10 — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 12:16:20 GMT

I am an Animal Control Officer. Currently I run the adoptions center at our shelter. I deal with issue on a regular basis. I hope what I have learned over the years can help your situation.

Dogs worm their way into a person's heart like no other being. And the worst thing about dogs is that the don't live forever. I am sorry for your loss. Please don't beat yourself up over it. Things happen, sometimes despite your best efforts.

Rest assured, your grieving is normal. It's OK. When I had to put one of my dogs down I was in bed for an entire weekend. It's been over 20 years and I still have his collar in a box on the top shelf on in the closet. I find it every now and then, and still get teary-eyed when I open the box. I'm not a nut, and neither are you. We are human, we have feelings, we are normal.

Eventually the sharpness of the pain will dull, and you'll find yourself remembering the happy times without crying. This can take weeks, this can take months. It's OK. Let it happen, but try not to dwell on it.

Later down the road you may find that you miss having a furry face in your life and think you want another dog. Then you'll feel guilty, thinking you're replacing Panda. These feelings are OK too.

My personal advice: Do something kind for others to take your mind off your pain. I have discovered over the years that when I focus on others' pain/problems, mine don't seem as overwhelming. Nursing homes, the Red Cross and homeless shelters always need help. So do schools, churches and animal shelters. Perhaps you can volunteer at your local animal shelter walking dogs or cuddling cats that are waiting to find permanent homes.

My professional advice: If/when you decide to get another dog, don't get one like Panda. Choose a different sex, a different color, a different breed. You don't want to subconciously compare the two. It's not fair to new dog, and it's not fair to Panda. Also, consider getting a shelter dog. You'll be saving a life, and the dogs KNOW it. I have several dogs (surprised?) and my rescued dog is the most loving, most grateful, most loyal dog I've ever had.

Again, I am so sorry. -- K

RE: I don't know what to do

reddog — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 04:49:47 GMT

i am so sorry for your lost! be happy that you were able to share your life with panda bear. panda made you happy but more important , you made panda happy as well!
theres really no words to say when someone loses such an important part of their life as you have , there will never be an other panda but there will always be a wonderful animal out there waiting for some one like you to give them the great love you gave panda bear. no one can take our memories away!! good luck godbless!

RE: I don't know what to do

pinkpoodle — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 21:48:15 GMT

If it's of any help, you should know that it probably meant the world to her to see you again and to be in your arms. If you think of how happy our dogs are to see us when we get home, we are their entire world. If she would have taken her last breaths somewhere away from home and away from you, she would have been scared, but she wasn't...she was in your arms...the only place she would have wanted to be. Know that she wouldn't have wanted it any other way. She may have been in shock, but she heard your voice, could smell your familiar scent, that is what is important is that you were with her up till the last second.

Hugs,

Pinkpoodle

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ko1nu — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 15:12:03 GMT

The full story is, my mom got a phone call from a stranger saying he picked up a little white dog on the highway, and did we own one. Afterwards my mom and I went into panic mode and waited on the sidewalk for the stranger to show up. When a little blue car finally pulled up, there in one of my friends arms was my little Panda bear in shock. The stranger insisted that she only bumped against a car, and was not seriously injured, but I wouldn't believe him. I managed to call my uncle to give us a ride to the vet hospital and we rushed out of the car. The hospital moved to a new location and Panda started to show signs of internal bleeding. After we rushed into the car, she started to cough up blood and it came out of her nose. All of the sudden I heard my friend (whose a EMT) started to perform CPR and then he said quielty: "guys ... she just lost her heartbeat" My mom, dad and sister and I always imagined her to go away in old age, not like this

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sl3dogz — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 10:49:30 GMT

i am so sorry about your loss i lost my dog cammi last month it was so sad i cryed for weeks

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taboolynn — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 21:25:14 GMT

i understand. i watch my Inkin die. it was horrible. my story is posted under memorial

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ko1nu — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 20:44:25 GMT

Thanks for replying anyways, I hope that no one expieriences their dog dieing in there arms (believe me, its one of the worst pain that you can feel) , I still have the blood stain on my pants, and every couple of minutes when I'm humming a sad song in my heaad, I would burst into tears

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taboolynn — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 20:32:16 GMT

i don't know what to say. your story made me feel sad, really sad. i am so very, very sorry for your loss. i want to say my hopes and wishes are with you.

I don't know what to do

ko1nu — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 18:42:49 GMT

Hi, I'm pretty new to this forum, and I am searching for advice on coping with the loss of a beloved family pet. I was looking for a shoulder to lean on today, and my friend suggested that I post my problem on a forum, to see if I can gain an understanding of my situation. I've been crying for 3 days straight, and can't get through work without a tear stained face. Everytime I sit down, whether its for lunch or a nap, I keep on getting flashbacks of rushing my dog ( My little Panda bear) to the hospital and not making it. Right now, I have an guilty conscience because I promised Panda that I would love her more now, because she was recently diagnosed with a lens luxation ( a hereditary disease that is common in Jack Russell Terriers) and lost her left eye. I recently came home from vacation and my friend who was baby sitting her, was bringing her home to me. When he was a couple of blocks away, Panda used her nose to pushed away the zipper on the pet carrier, and escaped, trying to find a way home. She ran onto the highway and got hit by a car. Right now I dug myself into a pit and is still mourning over her. What should I do?